Avoiding painful emotions can often prolong the struggle and grieving process after a relationship breakup. There is no precise timeframe for healing from a breakup.
If you’ve gone through a breakup and you are struggling to move on, it’s likely impacting your daily life. You can feel constant reminders of your ex, and moving on can feel so challenging as you wonder how?
Time does help, but it is not the magic bullet. For some, time helps, but others struggle to move on months or even years after a breakup. Below are some ways to help accelerate your healing process:
Eliminate the hope that you can reconcile with your ex.
There was a reason you broke up. You may have difficulty moving on if a part of you is holding onto the hope you will get back together with your ex. Think about the good and the bad or annoying aspects, which is why you likely broke up.
You seek closure.
If your relationship ends abruptly and you don’t know the reason why or what went wrong, this can prevent you from letting go. You don’t have to rely on another person for closure. You can try the empty chair technique where you pretend your ex is sitting in a chair across from you and say everything you didn’t get a chance to. It is interesting to listen to what they have to tell you if you sit in their chair after speaking to them.
Use the power of your mind to break that cord or past bond.
Your mind created this attachment. Therefore, your mind can un-attach it using a brilliant relationship recovery hypnosis session. The best way to recreate your new future is to eliminate that old connection, break free, and move forward happily with your life. They have moved on; now it is time you do too.
Discuss with your friends the flaws of your ex.
We usually remain in love with the memories of what was but is no more. We dismissed the red flags and issues that indicated incompatibility, but our friends and family may have noticed them. Create a list of reasons why the two of you are no longer together, focus on the cons.
Allow yourself to grieve.
When you feel ready, try to process your grief in whatever way feels most comfortable, whether through talking to trusted friends or family or using a hypnosis session to eliminate that past connection quickly.
Be open to giving other people a chance.
There are so many available people offering so many things. Often we feel we can never find that magical person to fulfil all our needs and desires. Because we remain stuck, we can find it hard to meet or connect with someone new. This doesn’t mean jumping into a new relationship immediately; we need time to grieve. However, having a few diversions can be fun and help us feel desired and wanted again.
Avoid being drawn to the same type of partner repeatedly.
People often subconsciously try to heal what happened in the past by replicating the same type of behaviour they witnessed as children or by their previous partner. This pattern is often repeated until the wound from the past is brought into unconscious conscious awareness and healed. Using the power of your unconscious mind can help stop this pattern. Setting a clear criterion of your needs, wants, and absolute not’s can also help alleviate this.
Avoid all contact with your ex by removing them on your social media.
Interacting or stalking your ex or following them on social media can be painful. Seeing what they are doing and who they are doing it with can drive you crazy. Maintaining contact or following your ex on social media can be like pouring salt into a wound and may be preventing you from moving on.
Do those bucket list things you always wanted to try
Now is the perfect time to plan to step out to do some of those wished or hoped activities. What’s on your bucket list? This is your time now, no one holding you back, so consider doing some of those dreamed activities you always wanted to do.
You will recover, you can move on. Remain busy and please grab your Relationship Recovery session to accelerate your recovery, because you are worth it.
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